I see and honor you!
Hello wonderful parents!
May I share something with you that I had been told in 2015? "You are not mental. Mental illness happened to you." This post is for the parents who find it especially hard to navigate life for themselves and families. I was diagnosed with PTSD in 2015 and bipolar in 2018. I was meeting with a parent tonight and I was able to share these wise words to her. They seemed to offer hope, that nothing was wrong with her. They certainly offered me hope when I first heard them. There is nothing wrong with having mental health. #mentalhealthishealth.
Parenting is hard work! Some days we are barely able to keep it together, and then others we are laughing and being creative with our kiddos. But here's some truth for you, you don't have to keep it together! Your kids only need you! They need your love, acceptance, nurturance and yes, even your emotions. They teach them how to be human. Since they watch everything we do, we can teach them how to navigate through their triggers and dysregulation. This is what I'm all about! I started this in my own family and I'm making it my mission to see more families embrace these truths.
I'm not ashamed of my story. It's led me to the path I am on. I love the times I work with other parents! Helping them uncover lies and beliefs that have not been serving them or their families. Generational trauma that I can literally see fall off of them as we talk through it. Some have not had a safe person to confide in, others bodies hold it all in, others have nightmares. We all deal with trauma in different ways.
I honor your story and I'm am so proud of you for making it this far! No matter what don't give up the fight to be who you are, even if you don't know who that is right now. It took me a long time to find out who I was, even longer to call myself a mama. Yet my family meets me with grace and love and that gives me the energy I need to be available for you! I've been given my story and Come to the Lighthouse LLC to share hope.
Parents it's okay to not be okay. It's not on you to hold it all together. You just get to be you. Love your children the best you can and they will be wonderful humans! Your love is all they need! Medications help with the extreme emotions, but just rest in this knowledge. They Need You! They could not imagine someone better as their parent! You might think they would be better off with someone else but that is absolutely not the case! They would be lost without you! Some parents have lost hope I experienced losing 3 mamas to suicide in my therapy programs. It was and still is devastating. The heartache suicide causes me to this day, for those mamas and those kiddos is why I am reaching back.
Please understand how vital you are to your children! You can have your up and down days but not one day will they want anyone else as their parent. I believe in you and all that you can accomplish with the support you receive. I believe in your family! I believe better days are ahead. And if not, I'm here to help in anyway I can! Whether by my practice or YouTube channel with DBT Skills a text or a call I am not hard to reach! I hope my words brings you comfort that you are exactly where you are supposed to be and nothing is wrong with you.
It was what happened to you.
All my best wishes and great love and compassion to you and your families!
Tina Putney
Certified Parent Coach
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